tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post2617378106221658465..comments2024-02-02T23:18:20.621-05:00Comments on Baby Bangs: I'm Not Sure What to Call This OneAmandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16777762608528843328noreply@blogger.comBlogger101125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-39797547866259854762010-05-06T16:30:41.885-04:002010-05-06T16:30:41.885-04:00I used to struggle all the time about the baby thi...I used to struggle all the time about the baby thing. My husband didn't want more than 2 and I wanted at least one more. I got my "one more," but not when or how I wanted (dh deployed and 2 wks later, I found out I was - surprise!!!! - pg with #3). I struggle mightily while pg and the idea of being pg alone while taking care of 2 little kids almost did me in. When he was born, I said "that's it, I'm done. Never doing this again." Dh had a V when #3 was 2 mos old. I never, ever lost that baby wish or desire, but thought we'd adopt (maybe). When #3 was 3yrs old, God did a total number on my heart. Everything I read, everything I heard, you name it - it was all in. my. face. What was the message? That God was in control of our family. Not me. Not my husband. He was. I tried to ignore it, but He kept at me. Finally, I asked my husband to pray for me about this issue, because I was soooo struggling with it. A few weeks later, I brought it to my husband again, asking him where he stood on the issue. I told him that I didn't know where I stood, but I was pretty sure I knew where I *should* be standing :P. I'll skip a lot, but apparently God was working on him, too, because 1 yr later, he had a vas reversal. I want you to know that both he and I have had complete and utter peace about the whole baby/how many kids question ever since. 1 yr exactly to the day after his reversal, our 4th baby was born. God is so very, very good. Dh's original vasectomy was in October. His reversal was 4 yrs later in October and exactly a year later, so was the blessing of my sweet little man (ahem, excuse me - he's NOT little! He's 3.5 yrs old. He's going to be 4 and then 5! according to him, anyway ;)). I also have a sweet baby girl who is 1 month younger than Annabeth. God is definitely the one directing the size of our family and we are doing nothing to prevent and nothing to assist. My two babies so far with this non-method are 29 mos apart. I did not get pregnant until #4 was 20 mos old. #5 is 14 mos old and I'm still here, not pregnant lol. <br /><br />Above Rubies is a great website for info about this whole issue. I just want to give you a big hug and tell you that it is completely normal to have baby longings. Thanks for sharing and sorry I was so wordy!lynsgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12924231173454428848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-30657500503328538022010-05-05T17:38:18.189-04:002010-05-05T17:38:18.189-04:00I have really been struggling over here for the la...I have really been struggling over here for the last year or so over trying to have another baby. It is such a huge commitment considering I throw up the entire time and have to go on bed rest in the hospital. That about broke me down last time. I didn't get to leave the hospital room for almost 2 months at one point. So yes! I hear you loud and clear. Ugh! Oh and I totally pass out at hospitals or when people are describing a surgical procedure. It is so embarrassing. When Rod broke his back I passed out over a gash on his forehead. I passed out in a hospital nursery over the nurse cleaning and umbilical cord. Someone once said I did it for attention and I am like WHO IN THE WORLD WOULD WANT TO GO THRU THAT!jennyhopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17549550675852269948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-49273469989053028412010-05-03T22:37:03.838-04:002010-05-03T22:37:03.838-04:00I am so sorry you guys had to go through all this ...I am so sorry you guys had to go through all this with Curt's pain. Man. On a different note...NO STINKIN' WAY! i have been eyeing that same PB girls room for my future girly room after the girls are a bit older and we don't need the nursery! hmmm...providental? i say go for it sister! it's sooooo worth it. i love love love being a mommy of three and it was a lot easier to go from 2-3 than from 1-2 or 0-1 kids b/c the older 2 can play with each other. I vote for the Jone's to have the honor of discipling another future worshiper!karihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01242057715052148730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-44588067461395954652010-05-03T08:46:35.562-04:002010-05-03T08:46:35.562-04:00Hey Little Momma:)
I'm not sure what to say a...Hey Little Momma:)<br /><br />I'm not sure what to say about this one, poor Curtis! That child's room decor was super cute:)...I don't know either about having many little ones. Because there were five of us, my mom let me and my older sister do alot of the feeding and diaper changes, etc. I think it helped her out a bunch, and I really think it helped prepare me for motherhood, somewhat:)<br /><br />katiegfromtennesseekatiegfromtennesseehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02703849303062043642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-26422553104140899832010-05-02T21:56:45.386-04:002010-05-02T21:56:45.386-04:00How about the uncertainty of when and if to start ...How about the uncertainty of when and if to start a family?? How did you know that God wanted you to be a mother and not spend your incredible gifts and resources being something else? <br /><br />Any young married's out there feel me?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-89708247327835308542010-05-01T09:29:42.565-04:002010-05-01T09:29:42.565-04:00Oh Amanda, I am so sorry for Curtis' pain and ...Oh Amanda, I am so sorry for Curtis' pain and yours in the foiled drain story. Love your humor in the midst of life's difficulties. You do bring him good---Prov. 31:12. You are learning to laugh at the future in ways most young adults have no clue. It is because you live with such hope in a Good God and His Plan A for your lives! "Clothed with Strength & Dignity, you will laugh at the days to come" and bring much joy not judgment.Bev Brandon @ The Frayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14403416688340930011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-36093978832709130582010-04-29T20:08:23.903-04:002010-04-29T20:08:23.903-04:00for years, each time I wanted another child, my hu...for years, each time I wanted another child, my husband got me a puppy.(after all, there are certain similarities between puppies and babies. They have to be watched every minute, everything goes in their mouths, they don't sleep through the night and they have to be "housebroken")Anyway, I ended up with 5 dogs instead of seven children. (and honestly, most days, two children are enough. Like today. However, I'm kind of wishing that I could send the dogs off to college.)Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03103467314934540256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-78092527179552766402010-04-29T01:36:35.338-04:002010-04-29T01:36:35.338-04:00I think it's normal, and in my experience, it ...I think it's normal, and in my experience, it has lasted well beyond my "prime!" I had only one child, a daughter - loved pregnancy, loved mothering, loved everything about every day of it and still do. There's nothing like a newborn!! I fight baby urges to this day! I do regret not having more children, but not doing it was the right thing to do in a bad marriage. If things had been different, oh, BABY! And I agree with KathyW's husband - even numbers are so much easier - everyone has a seatmate on the Disney World rides!WendyBrzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11579753623404379851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-87023658382685173662010-04-28T15:22:51.211-04:002010-04-28T15:22:51.211-04:00I'm a few days behind catching up reading the ...I'm a few days behind catching up reading the blog. Once I started to read the day's blog I just couldn't help myself and so I clicked the "this" link and I saw it. Two girls...and a girls room. Did you happen to think just for a second if your third wasn't that sweet girl sitting on the bed but if you had another......BOY??<br /><br />I think there would be a different link in that there blog and it wouldn't be so pretty. Think girl, think!!!! I'd be resting in His perfect peace with the blessing of one of each and call the family complete! <br /><br />Enjoy you and your blog!<br />Blessings! (Just not in the newborn I'm pregnant baby blessings sense :)<br /><br />TheresaTheresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00587309183596347279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-81742192108907426332010-04-28T10:55:37.285-04:002010-04-28T10:55:37.285-04:00Amanda,
My husband and I had a son, Cole and then...Amanda,<br /><br />My husband and I had a son, Cole and then a daughter, Ava and we thought we might be done but, God totally change both our desires and I'm so glad He did! Our 3rd blessing just turned "1" and boy oh boy is Jack the cherry on the top of our cupcake! :) His birth and my recovery were seriously much easier the 3rd time! :) Cole and Ava totally enjoyed their little baby brother! Jack has brought so much joy to our family! I say go for it: ask God to grow your family! My husband told me when we were considering whether or not to have a 3rd "Who at the end of their life wishes they didn't have another child?" He made a good point! We haven't regretted it for a single second! I think we are way more equipped to parent on this 3rd go around! Plus, I now know what a blessing all of it is and how fast it goes! I know you'll hear from God about what is best for your family! So no pressure from me! Just wanted you to know I remember thinking those same thoughts not too long ago! ~ AliAlihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09787105703849235963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-42815729743709724172010-04-28T10:35:20.612-04:002010-04-28T10:35:20.612-04:00Goodness! I had to bring Larry into the room to he...Goodness! I had to bring Larry into the room to hear this one! He has since come up with several more uses for foil that might be considered "inconspicuous". <br /><br />Still praying for complete recovery on a speedy timeframe.Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07658830832599089903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-19448110274998709902010-04-28T09:43:29.700-04:002010-04-28T09:43:29.700-04:00I guess I must be a total wimp - I almost puke whe...I guess I must be a total wimp - I almost puke when my boss tells stories about his wife's c-section. Yes I have a weird office. <br /><br />anyway, I could never watch that. I can't even watch needles in my own arm! you are so brave to have looked and shared Curtis' pain.<br /><br />DeirdreDeirdrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08583554624452350556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-23366433510424799912010-04-28T03:16:37.830-04:002010-04-28T03:16:37.830-04:00I can SO relate to the tube thing! I had surgery ...I can SO relate to the tube thing! I had surgery in February to remove cancer from my jaw. They sent me home from the hospital with a drainage back hanging from my neck. Beautiful, huh? After three days it was time to have it removed. HORRIFYING! Never have I experienced anything even close to that trauma! My husband nearly passed out. I think I may have blacked out for a minute. It took the doc two FULL STRENGTH pulls to get it out. Unreal. Mine was only about 6", but did I mention it was in my neck? I totally feel for you and Curtis. But the good news is - it's over!<br />Yes - totally normal to feel hot and cold about baby #3. Even after 2 precious little girls and just finishing up radiation (last treatment tomorrow!!!!!!!) I still wonder....Bridgette Jenckshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09806025719231578385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-25661508996558687622010-04-28T02:43:03.652-04:002010-04-28T02:43:03.652-04:00We had five children when I felt this exact longin...We had five children when I felt this exact longing for another baby. I told the Lord that He knew me better than I know myself. Would I one day really regret not having another? I asked my husband if we could try just one time and leave it in God's hands. Bingo. Number six was born 9 months later, our Lily. I am amazed to this day. I had no idea how much our family needed this child. Perfect match. An eternal gift from God. And let me tell you the more children you have, the more exercise you're sure to get!Kara Akinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14183707916550822861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-28500756635898209862010-04-28T00:57:58.504-04:002010-04-28T00:57:58.504-04:00{insert chuckles here}{insert chuckles here}Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11264845015930907294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-64939531260063507442010-04-28T00:10:55.216-04:002010-04-28T00:10:55.216-04:00I bet you won't eat spaghetti ever again witho...I bet you won't eat spaghetti ever again without thinking about that moment! haha! With my hubby's appendix nightmare (ya I'm the one that told you I made him do sit ups when the doc said he just had a virus...boo). When we were in the hospital, a nurse and EMT came in in uniform. She was so matter of fact and said we are here to put in your PIC line (the tube goes straight into your heart). We were like who is he and why is he here...will he need that guy? So scary like that scary chair you descirbed. We told them to leave and we needed to think about if it was the right thing to do. She was very put off and PTL it was the end of her shift and a new nurse came in alone. We told her we would go ahead but what was the risk and what was with that guy? She said he was just in training and wanted to watch!!! *Sigh* But I wished I never watched that procedure! I am not the squeamish type but now I am and can't look at that little scar on his arm without my stomach turning! I surely didn't watch it come out either! :)<br /><br />As for the baby dreaming...I have that too and mine just stopped nursing and I miss it. Crazy! I think babies are just one way of experiencing God's glory and His creation and that is always alluring! So, you are just more spiritually inclined...*giggle*. :) Keep on...you're doing a great job!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00365942763830676032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-57138562168563180132010-04-28T00:06:23.430-04:002010-04-28T00:06:23.430-04:00Can I just tell you that months 12-24 were my abso...Can I just tell you that months 12-24 were my absolute favorite times with my girl? Don't know if it's different with a boy, and I'll find out soon, but it was such a precious time with Moriah. You'll do great.FitzandMollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18418134906423614152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-37903088678477866392010-04-27T21:14:38.952-04:002010-04-27T21:14:38.952-04:00OH, have mercy!!!! Amanda! I can not believe you...OH, have mercy!!!! Amanda! I can not believe you had to see a 12 inch tube pulled out of Curt's stomach...or even that he had to endure that! <br /><br />As for another baby, I have no wise words friend. But, I guess the answer will be clear for you in time. :)Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03109816883949373514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-25771861600418606252010-04-27T19:02:15.674-04:002010-04-27T19:02:15.674-04:00Amanda, I'll be 60 years old next month. I had...Amanda, I'll be 60 years old next month. I had a gynological (sp?) appt. a few weeks ago and sat around the waiting room with many pregnant women. When I got into the examination room and while waiting for the doctor to come in I was treated to many colorful charts showing the many stages of the pregnancy cycle. I kid you not, I had this strong desire to be pregnant again! I felt regret that I couldn't get pregnant anymore. I left the office wondering "What was that all about??"<br /><br />Blessings to you,<br />GrandmamitzMITZIhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11940999440296903495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-9202601815124161262010-04-27T18:51:17.357-04:002010-04-27T18:51:17.357-04:00I wonder if you always feel the urge for another b...I wonder if you always feel the urge for another baby. I just had our fourth and through this last pregnancy must have told my husband one million times that I was DONE! Now he has an appointment this week to make permanent "done", and I'm looking at babies and thinking ohhhh, one more? Crazy.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07970303943538767005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-33340542283329120752010-04-27T18:41:23.914-04:002010-04-27T18:41:23.914-04:00I'm one of those weird people that like anythi...I'm one of those weird people that like anything that others feel are medically disgusting so I would have probably enjoyed it. And the foil wrapping just sounds like something a man would do =)<br />I'm totally with you on the baby thing! I cried the other day because I don't have one anymore!Alanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15892051256183434045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-12019859385498225872010-04-27T18:26:59.470-04:002010-04-27T18:26:59.470-04:00I sure hope those feelings are normal, because I a...I sure hope those feelings are normal, because I am right there with you!<br />I am so sorry that Curtis had to go through SO much pain. That's awful!<br />Take care, girl!Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09863543139743814365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-53900931696150828032010-04-27T18:02:22.693-04:002010-04-27T18:02:22.693-04:00I am with you totally... I waver now and then on h...I am with you totally... I waver now and then on having more children. SO, I just tell God that if we are to have another HE needs to do the blessing and surprise us because 90 percent of the time I am on the NO page!! I also remind Him that should He choose to surprise us, I would like my surprise EARLIER than later, like please no surprises when my baby is like 10 or older!!Karihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08606463500042520701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-3778770461814697862010-04-27T17:01:51.349-04:002010-04-27T17:01:51.349-04:00Poor Curtis! Jason had that done too and I couldn...Poor Curtis! Jason had that done too and I couldn't believe how long that drain was. It just kept coming. So glad he is feeling better :)jason meltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13118963261595194617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-50694672068969345722010-04-27T16:57:40.971-04:002010-04-27T16:57:40.971-04:00Amanda - you are TOTALLY normal. I think you know...Amanda - you are TOTALLY normal. I think you know when you are complete. I have 3 boys (6, 4 and almost 2). I still go back and forth about having a 4th child. My husband is ok either way - but he did say to me one day, "You know you can't just keep having more. At some point, we have to be done with having babies!". HA! Keep praying about it and God will answer you. I think the 3rd was my easiest transition and pregnancy/delivery if that is any consolation!<br />Sorry about CJ's drain experience....sounds like it was very painful!<br />cbmommymusings.blogspot.comCarrie Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12320689621731318802noreply@blogger.com