tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post6563539346588253790..comments2024-02-02T23:18:20.621-05:00Comments on Baby Bangs: Helicopter Moms AnonymousAmandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16777762608528843328noreply@blogger.comBlogger65125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-84790982082871456282010-09-10T22:13:48.166-04:002010-09-10T22:13:48.166-04:00Reading about what a helicopter mom is, I'm tr...Reading about what a helicopter mom is, I'm trying to do some self examination, wishing that I would not do that either...Not visiting the ER has to be a plus...I see what you are saying about balance here, Lord help us all:) We NEED it!<br /><br />I have been praying for you in Guatemala:) Blessings,<br /><br />katiegfromtennesseekatiegfromtennesseehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02703849303062043642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-39932138065326328192010-09-10T18:16:33.215-04:002010-09-10T18:16:33.215-04:00When can I join?? Support group needed ASAP!
And ...When can I join?? Support group needed ASAP!<br /><br />And the worst of all is now that C is in a big girl bed... I can't sleep. I just IMAGINE horrible things she can do at night. And I am not there to hover. Lord help my wild mind.Kellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11221108113261292862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-24101179043757008512010-09-08T17:32:50.920-04:002010-09-08T17:32:50.920-04:00Oh, you so aren't the only one who is trying t...Oh, you so aren't the only one who is trying to find this balance....<br /><br />Imagine my horror when I have realized that my 6yr old son has picked up on my anxiety and worry about everything. He worries incessantly about everything... one thing scares him and then everything does.<br /><br />I take medication to help ward off some of the anxiety - but I make his worse probably by trying to control everything he does. It's to the point now that he doesn't want to try riding his bike, even with training wheels... one because he is afraid to try, and two because other kids his age are off the training wheels. (You know what? Those are my fears too, for him.... ugh!!!!)<br /><br />Praying for balance and a laid back attitude for me and for him!<br /><br />Thanks so much for sharing your heart here!Heather - On the Road...https://www.blogger.com/profile/07683927194494117493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-87413327192281195522010-09-08T13:30:49.570-04:002010-09-08T13:30:49.570-04:00I'm so glad you wrote this post. Eek, I think...I'm so glad you wrote this post. Eek, I think I'm a helicopter mom... Ugh! Such a hard pill to swallow! I want to give my babies so much and that leads me to over-control so many (all?) situations. I don't know if I know how to do the happy medium.... You are absolutely right in the last part...about which is worse. Thanks for pointing it out...you got me thinking. :o)Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06250370146876721525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-14866946576596035362010-09-08T09:44:33.517-04:002010-09-08T09:44:33.517-04:00Oh boy. I can't tell you how much of this post...Oh boy. I can't tell you how much of this post I could have written myself. It hurts! I think I am always so worried about my kids inconveniencing someone else (with their loud voices, running around, etc) that I pretty much allow them to enjoy nothing. Grocery shopping is the worst. I always insist my 6 year old daughter stay in the cart (when she'd MUCH rather walk with me) and my 8 year old son is not allowed to jump around, twirl or touch a thing. When did I become like this?? And it becomes this INCREDIBLY stressful, nerve-wracking time, and I inevitably end up paying my bill through clenched teeth because I've pretty much had it. This is so not healthy and the last thing I want to do is rob my kids of their childhood. This is what being a kid is all about! Having fun no matter what boring activity you're doing, and finding the joy in everything! Kids touch stuff- I need to deal with it. As long as they're not knocking down jars of spaghetti sauce I think I can lighten up a bit. Thank you for this reminder.Melodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16063516579769916621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-17661023564285410832010-09-08T09:11:50.954-04:002010-09-08T09:11:50.954-04:00This is an awesome post! Thank you for making me ...This is an awesome post! Thank you for making me stop and think about my own life and parenting. <br />God bless you!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16419234486861901512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-45578118664466677002010-09-08T00:08:55.786-04:002010-09-08T00:08:55.786-04:00Such a great post Amanda. I was totally baffled by...Such a great post Amanda. I was totally baffled by how well I can relate. My husband has been so perfect for me with this, he has really helped me to relax and not be such a "helicopter mom." ;) Recently during my quite time with God I read that He has our days numbered before one of them came to be. Though I've read that so many times before, it actually clicked with me this time. God is in control...over EVERYTHING (when my kids get hurt, when my kids die etc)I have felt a huge relief since God brought this to my attention. :) He is so good! Please keep up the great posts, they are so encouraging!Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01126419180143727087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-62970523043298746782010-09-07T22:19:14.096-04:002010-09-07T22:19:14.096-04:00"Hovering" evolves - now with online mon..."Hovering" evolves - now with online monitoring at my 15 year old's private high school I am watching every step - behavior, missing assignments, grades etc. Still trying to save him from harm he can't see. :)Anita Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17408208272450473599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-64963404967823392872010-09-07T20:53:24.374-04:002010-09-07T20:53:24.374-04:00Praying for you as you travel with Compassion. I ...Praying for you as you travel with Compassion. I am so excited to follow and pray. I hope I do not bother you with all my tweets! <br /><br />blessings,<br />TeenaTeenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04582391374202077005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-53628893188470143252010-09-07T17:20:08.613-04:002010-09-07T17:20:08.613-04:00I about shrieked just picturing your daughter fall...I about shrieked just picturing your daughter fall through that ladder!<br /><br />I think I'm a bit of a helicopter-mother too. Just a bit. Okay - maybe a moderate.Dionnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15887793549770593022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-11599211709709213682010-09-07T17:10:04.677-04:002010-09-07T17:10:04.677-04:00thanks for writing this amanda! even though baby g...thanks for writing this amanda! even though baby girl is just 3 weeks old, i already saw this coming out in me just this past weekend. so thankful for your honesty!Becky Kiserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15937129961362227318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-70897864907188394342010-09-07T16:32:02.569-04:002010-09-07T16:32:02.569-04:00A friend of mine is the same way and I'll tell...A friend of mine is the same way and I'll tell you what I told her. By being this way, you are telling God that you do a much better job than he does of taking care of these children and they are safer being under YOUR control. If you don't relax and show Him that you trust HIM, he may just show you how 'in control' you are with a situation you aren't prepared for. <br />Let go.... and let God. He loves your children MUCH more than you do :)Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17265179896467057553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-14100555513706660772010-09-07T15:34:48.034-04:002010-09-07T15:34:48.034-04:00Amanda, thanks for sharing this post. It made you...Amanda, thanks for sharing this post. It made you very vulnerable, but now we know how to pray for you. :)Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15085283882734675447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-19945520915616405142010-09-07T14:38:35.322-04:002010-09-07T14:38:35.322-04:00I had never heard the term! Any chance we can get...I had never heard the term! Any chance we can get that tween video on your blog? J/K!! LOL!Susyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01389670633840666455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-3687825536048439742010-09-07T13:49:21.467-04:002010-09-07T13:49:21.467-04:00From one helicopter mama to another....it's ok...From one helicopter mama to another....it's ok!<br />I'm at the other end of the hovering stages. Mine are high school & college.<br />I worried myself about the kind of people they would turn out like (thanks to my catching every tear)....and now I see.<br />I didn't mess them up nearly as bad as I'd imagined! :)<br /><br />Something that really touches my heart is how deeply they feel. They are (all 3) very compassionate and self aware!<br />Let me encourage you.....keep loving them and doing what works for your family.<br />I learned way back when...I had to do what it took to make my family work.<br />And....if you're feeling the nudge to back off a bit, listen to that.<br />They will get hurt....but they'll have you to love on them afterwards!<br /><br />Praying for you on your trip!Wanderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02225951335744529022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-7347851133506222182010-09-07T12:05:17.362-04:002010-09-07T12:05:17.362-04:00Amanda -
May I say, I love you! :) You are so o...Amanda - <br />May I say, I love you! :) You are so open and honest and you say exactly what I am feeling a lot of the time. I tell my hubby all the time that everyone lives the same way, no one just wants to admit it. :)Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03021222855621662458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-74165076053604637992010-09-07T10:40:56.753-04:002010-09-07T10:40:56.753-04:00I am the total opposite. I want my kids to be able...I am the total opposite. I want my kids to be able to succeed without me always be on top of them. This probably comes from growing up with some helicopter Mom's who drove everyone nuts and well is one of the reason I hate church to this day. My kids are typically nasty at the end of the day due to the dirt they get into and at 2 and 4 I even allow them to play in the yard alone.dgsandbjsmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04779333512388894081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-75711556915489127722010-09-07T10:33:34.086-04:002010-09-07T10:33:34.086-04:00Amanda - I'm you. In your mom's post abou...Amanda - I'm you. In your mom's post about jury duty the other day she mentioned how yoy're always a strict rule follower and now this post. I think our position as oldest child in the family tends to lead to these traits. Take heart though - my daughters now 21 and 24 grew up beautifully despite my helicoptering. I remember being amazed once when a friend and I took our children on a picnic in the woods and her children were roaming and climbing while she sat peacefully and chatted with me. God sent us two little boys through adoption - they are now 5 and 9 and I'm 48. Age has mellowed me a little bit but I still struggle with the perfection issue. Thanks for sharing. It helps to know that I'm not alone in this struggle.Rhondahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13340116777934619902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-46485183032532571512010-09-07T10:15:43.482-04:002010-09-07T10:15:43.482-04:00Right on, Amanda! Great post!Right on, Amanda! Great post!Bethany @ Our 4 Sons Plus 1...Super Cute Girly Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18121947461101222394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-73853387813059332122010-09-07T09:59:20.639-04:002010-09-07T09:59:20.639-04:00I was/am a helicopter at playgrounds. But, even w...I was/am a helicopter at playgrounds. But, even with me watching, my son at 13 months old fell off and broke his arm. I was 2 feet away. In our own backyard. I think our kids are going to get bumps and bruises no matter our efforts. So, I've let up some since then (6 months ago) and my kids are much happier playing outside now.WinDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08718401411288180054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-86746639793484536402010-09-07T09:56:18.745-04:002010-09-07T09:56:18.745-04:00I know I was a helicopter mom. But now I am learni...I know I was a helicopter mom. But now I am learning another term for me - Velcro Mom. According to a Today Show spot, those are the ones that hang on after their kids go to college. I have a senior in HS and I can see how quickly I could matriculate :) from a helicopter mom to a Velcro Mom when he heads to college next year - especially since he is an only child. Only by the grace of God will I be able to balance the act of being involved and hands off at the same time!Susan B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17234931487452511609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-47681637355638398882010-09-07T08:44:04.481-04:002010-09-07T08:44:04.481-04:00You are not alone in this one. Your post really h...You are not alone in this one. Your post really hit home with me. Especially the part about over-correcting your kids in public. It reminded me of a time a couple of years ago when my daughter (probably 4 at the time) was dancing at VBS, and I thought she was getting a little too silly with the older girls and not paying enough attention. (How dare she break into freestyle moves and pass up the hand motions?). Anyway, I told her that she needed to calm down a little bit at the music time (this sound so much more ridiculous as I type it). The next day, she went back, and when they stood the kids up to sing and dance, she stayed in her seat. Her teacher went over and told her she could stand up, and it was then that she said, "My mom says I'm not allowed to dance." I could just die!<br /><br />So thanks for the reminder that I'm not alone, and here's one back at you that neither are you!Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17208576403915650800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-88256291733426144772010-09-07T08:35:51.282-04:002010-09-07T08:35:51.282-04:00whoa, this is really somthing for me to think abou...whoa, this is really somthing for me to think about. Thank you for being transparent and sharing these thoughts! Your posts are always so good, and you're hilarious too! :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-54429471095829720472010-09-07T02:44:36.347-04:002010-09-07T02:44:36.347-04:00I have stories of my own and know how hard it is t...I have stories of my own and know how hard it is to stop hovering. In fact, it just a tad on the impossible side. Love them and do your best. <br /><br />I wanted to let you know that you will be in my prayers as you head off to Guatemala and serve Christ. I pray that God will bring you back to us not only changed, but inspired. I am looking forward to how He calls you to be His hands, heart and voice in His ministry you join Him on. You and your family will be in my prayers!twinklehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522192646526647165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24028336.post-77655177869192558022010-09-07T00:37:16.924-04:002010-09-07T00:37:16.924-04:00You'll figure it out.
And I have cracked up ...You'll figure it out. <br /><br />And I have cracked up over that story ever since you told me. <br /><br />That and Jen's!Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11264845015930907294noreply@blogger.com